Nakya Reeves, LMFT cited in Ebony Magazine article - "16 Rules for Back to School"

Just in time for the back to school season, Ebony Magazine has released an article, "16 Rules for Back to School" by Nina Malkin, in their August 2015 issue - in which I had the pleasure of being cited as an expert source! The article is a wonderful aid for parents who are getting ready for the upcoming school year, whether dealing with first time Kindergarteners or children who transitioning back into the groove. "Ebony got together with experts, bloggers, and real parents like you, culling their best tips and techniquest to make the school year as easy as A-B-C" (quote from the article).

It covers helpful routines, handling the morning, what to do about bullying, learning challenges, and more! I was able to give a little insight that relates to the issues I encounter with families I see in therapy.

Here's a little of what I had to say for the article:

Is My Relationship Healthy? Recognizing a Toxic Relationship and What to Do About It

Oftentimes clients come to therapy because they have choices to make. Something does not feel right in their life, and they needs the time and space to figure out what to do about it - and sometimes IF there is even something that needs to be done.

A common question I have seen clients deal with is: "Is my relationship healthy?" There is a line that separates normal relationship ups and downs from behaviors that are damaging and unhealthy. How can you assess where your relationship falls?

In determining this, here are a few things to think about (and remember, these points are valid in any relationship. Romantic relationships are not the only types of relationships that can be toxic):

• Take a look at your everyday life, and weigh out if the relationship is draining you of energy or resources. You should be receiving more energy from your relationship than you are exerting.
• When it comes to your private life, take an honest assessment of the things you are doing "in the name of love." Are you doing things you are uncomfortable with admitting to? Can you readily admit to your actions to the people who know you best and care for you? This can be a red flag because love should not humiliate us.
• Look at your future goals and aspirations. If you are not pursuing something you want in life (a job, a move, another friendship/relationship) because it threatens the relationship in question, then this is a sign that something is very wrong. Healthy relationships allow for growth

If you notice that you are in a relationship that you need to disconnect from, it can be hard to break out of old habits. Here a few suggestions for creating positive change:

Featured on the TV Show Fatal Attraction on TV One!

A few pictures from this weekend shooting for the show, Fatal Attraction - TV One 

I flew to the Midwest to give commentary on a very interesting murder case, from a therapist's perspective. It was a great experience! It was a quick trip, but I enjoyed speaking on the relationship dynamics of the people involved in the case - very explosive things come into play when there are unhealthy behaviors, betrayal, dishonesty, and jealousy. 

I can't say much more than that for now. The episode will likely air this Fall, I will keep you posted!! 

- written by Nakya Reeves, LMFT. I am a therapist and owner of a private practice where my main focus is working with families on communication issues, especially the parent-teen relationship. I also utilize PhotoTherapy techniques in my practice, which integrates bringing in photos that the client has taken or collected as a part of the therapy process. I can be contacted any time at csolutionstherapy@gmail.com

CST Book Recommendation: Should I Stay Or Should I Go?

I always suggest books, movies, and activities to clients as a supplement to therapy. They are a great way for clients to solidify and continue the changes we are discussing in session. This book has been a GREAT tool for clients. It is by one of my favorite self-help/therapy topic authors, Lundy Bancroft - along with JAC Patrissi. When I looked it up on Amazon to make the suggestion, I found the perfect synopsis -  the authors "offer a way for women to practically take stock of their relationships and move forward-with or without their partners.

Women involved in chronically frustrating or unfulfilling relationships will learn to:

-Tell the difference between a healthy-yet-difficult relationship and one that is really not working

- Recognize the signs that their partner has a serious problem

- Stop waiting to see what happens-and make their own growth the top priority

- Prepare for life without their partner-even as they keep trying to make the relationship work" 

I suggest keeping a journal while reading books, especially one this thought-provoking and engaging. If anyone has read this book, or plans to, I would love to hear about it!

- written by Nakya Reeves, LMFT. I am a therapist and owner of a private practice where my main focus is working with families on communication issues, especially the parent-teen relationship. I also utilize PhotoTherapy techniques in my practice, which integrates bringing in photos that the client has taken or collected as a part of the therapy process. I can be contacted any time at csolutionstherapy@gmail.com

Our City Plantation Ad for Individual, Couples, and Family Therapy

Have you seen our ad in the March 2015 edition of the Our City Plantation magazine? If you didn't receive a copy at your home, you can check it out online at www.ourcityplantation.com - after March 31st, look in the Past Issues for "March 2015."

Contact me at csolutionstherapy@gmail.com or www.csolutionstherapy.com for Communication Issues in your relationships, Parent-Teen relationship issues, and individual therapy!

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Be Curious About Their Hobbies!

A little morning humor, but still a good message. Magic is a card game, a pretty involved one with tournaments, judges, online content, a storyline, etc. One of the most effective things that I do as a therapist is actually very simple: Being Curious. I ask questions about what my clients are interested in, I connect it with what I may already know about it, and even look up more to be better informed. Showing respect for your child's interests/hobbies is one of the best ways to connect with your growing teen. They're starting to form their own identity and you want to be sure you get "in" during the beginning stages of that. Parents always tell me they feel as if they don't know their child or that they're child "isn't being the person they used to be" - being curious is how you prevent that. [And like the picture says, cultivating these hobbies can provide them many alternatives to drug and alcohol abuse. The more options, the better]

What are some things you learned from your child? What interests have they introduced you to?

- written by Nakya Reeves, LMFT. I am a therapist and owner of a private practice where my main focus is working with families on communication issues, especially the parent-teen relationship. I also utilize PhotoTherapy techniques in my practice, which integrates bringing in photos that the client has taken or collected as a part of the therapy process. I can be contacted any time at csolutionstherapy@gmail.com

Homework Assignments in Therapy

To get the most out of therapy: Do your homework!! Hearing helpful information and making thoughtful breakthroughs only go so far as your ACTIONS. Make sure to work in between sessions & get the most out of your experience 

- written by Nakya Reeves, LMFT. I am a therapist and owner of a private practice where my main focus is working with families on communication issues, especially the parent-teen relationship. I also utilize PhotoTherapy techniques in my practice, which integrates bringing in photos that the client has taken or collected as a part of the therapy process. I can be contacted any time at csolutionstherapy@gmail.com

Open House Jan. 23rd!

Our office is having an Open House tomorrow evening!! If you are a professional in the South Florida/Broward County area we invite YOU to come out and join us! It will be a great opportunity to tour our new office and mingle with other professionals. We will have food, gift bags & a raffle for a special giveaway. If you know someone who would like to attend, pass the info along! Email me csolutionstherapy@gmail.com for any questions!

7520 NW 5th Street, suite 206

Plantation, FL 33317

How to Make it Easier to Communicate with Your Teen

In my work with teens, I've seen and heard many issues arise across the board. There are just some things that are common amongst this population, no matter what the original problem was that brought them to therapy. One such issue is the low quality of communication between teens and their parents. And oftentimes the main issue there is a teen feeling misunderstood, or as if their thoughts and opinions are belittled.